You are the patient, still alert and oriented, able to make your own decisions. What will you say to the nurse?
You have the authority—the durable power of attorney for health care—to make decisions when your loved one is unable to choose. What will you say to the nurse?
Every person and family is different. Some, when faced with the toughest decisions in hospice (like starting morphine for pain management), surprise themselves when they are all in agreement. Other families, who may easily agree on whose house to go to for Thanksgiving, or the right gift for Mom and Dad’s fortieth wedding anniversary, either debate or procrastinate about morphine as an option. And nearly every hospice professional has encountered a chaotic, angry, opinionated—yes, over-the-top dysfunctional—family that seems to go to war when a drug like morphine is a loved one’s suggested next step.
Morphine is an effective, scary, and powerful medication. It often becomes the tipping point for resisting or accepting hospice’s comfort care philosophy. Read More →by