Near death, is hearing our last form of active connection with others?
I’ve witnessed doctors urging adult children to continue sharing essential information with a comatose parent. And I’ve also witnessed nurses warning friends or family members to be careful with all conversations during a hospital visit. Even a patient that seems “out of it” may hear arguments. The patient may comprehend that one sibling is berating another for not “pulling the plug.” I’ve been in rooms when individuals have joked about trivial things, completely ignoring their friend or family member. I’ve also been with people who stood on opposite sides of a hospital bed while debating money, cremation vs. burial, or where they’d have dinner later that night.
- What is the last thing you want your loved one to hear?
- Will you refer to him in the third person, as if he was not present in the room?
- What if she overhears criticism or gossip about a family member, or about her?
- Why are you grousing about colleagues at work or whining about incompetent teachers at your kid’s school?
Talk to your loved one, not over them.
Talk with them, not about them.
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